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Jim Dethmer: The Pillars of Integrity [The Knowledge Project Ep. #161]

Get ready to upgrade your life with executive and leadership coach Jim Dethmer’s powerful Four Pillars of Integrity. From owning your mistakes to boosting your emotional intelligence, Dethmer shares essential strategies to improve your relationships and live more purposefully.

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As a coach to over 150 CEOs and founding partner at The Conscious Leadership Group, Dethmer brings experience and results. If you want more from Jim Dethmer, don’t miss his first appearance on The Knowledge Project.

Here are a few highlights from our conversation:

So to me, integrity is energetic wholeness. Now what that translates to very quickly for me is full aliveness. So when I am in integrity, I am energetically whole. I am fully alive.

It begins with a clear commitment inside of yourself. Then it begins with growing in self-awareness. So you can feel the difference between blaming and criticizing and taking responsibility. And then it moves to a very simple practice.

There are two dimensions to repairing that relationship. One is literally repairing it with the other person, but there’s a repair that can occur that doesn’t require or even need to involve the other person.

“All drama in relationships is caused by unaligned commitments and/or unclear and unkept agreements.”

Timecodes:

00:00 – Intro
01:16 – 4 Pillars of Integrity
16:17 – Radical responsibility
29:07 – On the “core wants”
48:30 – On rituals
57:47 – Willpower vs. discipline
01:03:47 – Revealing and not concealing
01:29:30 – Teach yourself to feel feelings
01:51:20 – Tools to take a pause during heated moments
02:03:00 – On keeping agreements

Show Notes

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