In the second of a special two-part episode, performance psychologist Gio Valiante calls on his vast experience working with some of the world’s top athletes and entrepreneurs. Shane and Valiante discuss failure and the fear that holds you back from making the most of your talent, shifting from an ego orientation to a mastery orientation, common misconceptions about success and failure, and how we learn when it’s time to cut our losses and move on to a different challenge.
Valiante is regarded as one of the most successful performance coaches in the world. He’s worked extensively with golfers on the PGA and LPGA Tours, Olympic athletes, and leading figures in NCAA football and the NFL, where he served as the Head Performance Coach of the Buffalo Bills. He has also logged over 5,000 hours coaching some of the most sophisticated investors in the world, including hedge fund manager Steve Cohen.
Here are a few highlights from the episode:
Why is everyone walking around underperforming relative to their ability? Largely, it’s because people live their lives trying to avoid embarrassment.
Here’s the other part of the equation no one wants to talk about. A lot of winning is knowing when to quit.
Life is so painful and so difficult, you have to find a way to find things funny if you’re going to survive in this world.
Flow states are the hallmark of people who are great at what they do. They get lost in what they do.
When you fail early, you start to recognize what a real opportunity looks like. And then, oh, by the way, when that opportunity presents itself, there’s a lot of fuel to make it happen.
People ask me, “What do I do when I’m afraid?” Stare at it. Go eyeball to eyeball with the fear.
00:00 – Intro
05:20 – How to get out of the stronghold of fear?
18:24 – How to shift from ego-orientation to mastery-orientation?
25:20 – What can we learn from success?
37:43 – How do you know when to quit and when to double-down?
47:25 – What is success for Dr. Gio Valiante?