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The Physics of Relationships

Brain Food – No. 544 – October 1, 2023

Timeless ideas and insights for life. (Read the archives).

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The Physics of Relationships: Going Positive and Going First

While Newton’s third law was developed with physics in mind, it applies equally well to biology. When pushed on, we push back. The harder we push others, the harder they push back. How well we align with this simple principle of mirrored reciprocation determines whether our outcomes are good or bad.

— Source

Insight

Nobel Prize Winner Francis Crick on the secret to winning.

“Oh it’s very simple. My secret had been I know what to ignore.”

Tiny Thought(s)

1.

People who consistently get better results organize their lives in such a way that they are in a position to have better options and are never forced by circumstances into a bad decision.

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2.

The courage to start.
The discipline to focus.
The confidence to figure it out.
The patience to know progress is not always visible.
The persistence to keep going, even on the bad days.

That’s the formula.

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TKP

Dr. Leah Lagos and Joe Mazzulla

Health and performance psychologist Dr. Leah Lagos discusses the concept of Heart Rate Variability (HRV) and how you can improve your mental and physical health by using signals from your body to gain control over stress. She’s joined on this episode by the Head Coach of the Boston Celtics, Joe Mazzulla, who has worked with Dr. Lagos on HRV training.

“I think as performers or leaders, … when we’re in decision-making processes, for me personally, I always felt like I had to act “calm” or always had to be a certain way in order to make good decisions, or you can’t make decisions if you’re not calm. … we really started working on was the oscillation process, the ability to fluctuate your heart rate so that you can operate under different levels of stress. Then, when you do get into those levels of stress, how quickly can you recover …? And so it really opens up my mind, too. It’s not about being one way. How can you manipulate your environment? How do you manipulate the momentum? How can you fluctuate your energy in order to have a positive effect on the environment around you?”

— Listen and Learn

ETC.

The Worst Programmer

“Tim wasn’t delivering software; Tim was delivering a team that was delivering software. The entire team became more effective, more productive, more aligned, more idiomatic, more fun, because Tim was in the team.”

— Source

Thanks for reading,
— Shane

P.S. This is cute.

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