Author, educator, entrepreneur, and hedge fund advisor, Adam Robinson shares powerful lessons on winning the game of life. He teaches us how to learn, how to fail, and his three secrets of happiness and success.
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Today on the podcast, I welcome author, educator, and hedge fund advisor, Adam Robinson. If you don’t know who Adam is, let me give you a little background. He is the man who cracked the SAT before co-founding The Princeton Review and in fact, wrote the only test preparation book to become a New York Times bestseller.
Adam is a rated chess master with a Life Title and was actually personally mentored by Bobby Fischer. He was an undergrad at The Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and later earned a law degree at Oxford University.
There was so much I wanted to talk to Adam about that we ended up talking for nearly 4 hours. To make it a bit easier to consume, I divided the podcast into two parts (you can find part two here), but don’t let the length of this episode discourage you. Adam really delivers and shares some amazing insights that I’m excited for you to hear.
Here are a few highlights from our conversation:
The Great Game is life. We play many games in life. The game of job, or career, or starting a business, or the politics game, or the education game. Everything is a game. Games suggest something that’s not serious, but of course, games are intensely serious. If you want to find someone who is ferociously intense and focused, watch someone playing a game, especially something competitive.
Constitutionally, I’m an introvert, and so the revelation of 2016, into 2017 and now 2018, has been that the real magic is connecting with others. That if you want to do anything in the world, and this is as true personally as well as professionally, it’s all about creating a vision for others to join.
Our views of the world are reflected back to ourselves by the internet, so we become more hardened in our own views, right? In fact, all we see is exactly what we expect to see. The internet and technology is one big confirmation bias engine.
By quantitative measures, people should be happier, and yet they’re not. It’s the exact opposite, right? The irony is that we have material wealth undreamt of. The average person today lives better than the average king a couple of centuries ago. And yet — we’re not happier.
One of the problems with self-help books is they rivet your attention on exactly the one thing it ought not to be focused on: yourself. You look at any of the great religious traditions, and the great philosophers, and the great poets, they all had the same message of focusing on others, and being of service to others. I think the people who are going on search to “find themselves,” will never find themselves. You find yourself only in the midst of others.
Here’s a clue that you’ve tapped into Truth with a capital T, and that your unconscious is speaking — it’s that the answer will surprise you. You’ll be startled by it.
When someone says, “It makes no sense that…” really what they’re saying is this: “I have a dozen logical reasons why gold should be going higher but it keeps going lower, therefore that makes no sense.” But really, what makes no sense is their model of the world, right? So I know when that happens, that there’s some other very powerful reason why gold keeps going lower that trumps all the “logical reasons.”
In America, we’ve deified “intelligence.” And the problem with “intelligence” is that it works against you. If you’re intelligent, you shouldn’t have to work too hard. Things should come pretty quickly, and if you aren’t intelligent, what’s the point? The better belief is that your success is determined by how hard you work. Then, it’s just a matter of choice. If you want something, work for it, and you will if you want it.
I think it’s important that parents let their children know, just to talk about parents for a sec, that learning is hard. You need to know that learning is hard. It’s not easy. Right? The reason you need to know it’s hard is that if you think it’s easy, as soon as you encounter difficulty, you’re going to think the problem is you. So you need to know it’s hard, going in.`